After 9 years and 3 countries, I’m making the transition from expatriate to repatriate. It’s a brand new chapter with new stories to tell! I now come to you from the home of baseball and birthplace of Frank Sinatra— Hoboken, New Jersey.
I know you are not waiting with bated breath to read another installment from Tale of a Trailing Spouse, and for this I am thankful. Two weeks have passed since I brought a fresh story to you, but not because I haven’t wanted to write. Truth be told, I haven’t found the time.
But, this is actually a good thing.
Most of you know that for years I’ve wrangled with the value in my role as trailing spouse, non-mom, and lady of leisure. I’ve tried to temper my natural tendency to put greater worth in doing rather than just being. I’ve meditated on taking pride in who I was as a person and not how I might be able to label myself on a LinkedIn account. While this certainly has been a useful exercise, I’ve never been able to find a satisfactory answer to the question, “Is this life all there is for me?”
Over five years have passed since I left the workforce and joined my husband on an amazing adventure around the world. Never have I regretted the lifestyle change because it has enriched and broadened us in ways I could never articulate. But as I write to you today, I am tired of being little more than a lady of leisure, who has nothing but time to kill. I’ve decided to try to proactively make something of my life instead of languishing in Singapore. To this end, I’ve started classes to freshen my skill set and accepted a few voluntary projects, which might help to expand the shriveling grey matter in my head.
None of this directly answers the questions rolling around in my head about future endeavors, but it feels good to be doing something beneficial for me in the here and now. Of course, I would never give up my little blog. You, dear readers, are my confidants and therapists. I love having you along on this journey! Thank you for the understanding and encouragement you have given me along the way.